The great fitting torque debate, probably one of the most discussed topics on VAF. This will sound really crazy, but for Yiming's situation, I typically use a cressent wrench. Yeah I know, BUT the jaws are typically longer than a standard wrench, and you can tighten the jaws so the wrench fits without play against the fitting flats. For NPT, after sealing the threads, I mark wher the fitting should be oriented, go snug and 1 full turn to that marked point. NOW---you do have to understand the materials being used. Because the NPT ports are tapered, you can actually deform the female port but wayyyy overtightening the fitting. OR worst case, if the thread to edge distance is thin, lik in a Flow Scan, you can actually crack the unit. (FT60s are MUCH thicker an its not an issue). The other thing, is know the material of the fitting, steel fitting yo probably will never break, but alumimum, especially some import versions, yes you can break them.