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People ARE hurting. Not everybody. But a lot of them. And it just makes me sick that I can't do more; that we all can't do more... especially when we can.
Bob, I don't mean to be argumentative as I understand what you are saying. On the other hand I respectfully disagree with the, "Help your neighbor" concept and the American notion of "hurting" these days.
I believe that charity should be a willingness on the part of the giver and not the expectation on the part of the receivers that it has become. Whatever happened to American "Rugged Individualism" and "Pull Yourself Up by Your Bootstraps" mentality. What has happened is the politics, movie stars, and media of the times have turned charity into a guilt trip and an attempt to assure equality of outcome for everyone. Sure there are poor people and needy people, always have been always will be. We aren't talking about the true needy and we know who they are. But frequently, the rants you hear about the "needy" are from people making sizable incomes who have overextended themselves and are looking for a bailout. You know, dual income families with 4 kids, a million dollar home, 2 dogs, 3 SUVs, a boat, a swimming pool, $50K in credit card debt, and $100K in student loans.
I am a teacher so you know my income. Ok if you don't I make $42K a year. Period! No incentives, no Christmas bonus. I work in a title one (read "poor") school. My customers are "economically disadvantaged" families who live in the $170K plus houses in the area - more than what my paid off house I bought 30 years ago on a 15 year fixed note is worth, by the way. They drop their kids off in Hummers and SUV's at six in the morning and we send them home on late busses at 4:45 PM. We feed them breakfast, lunch, and a snack after school. I confiscate IPODs and IFONs (sp) from these economically disadvantaged students wearing $100 plus sneakers daily because they aren't suppose to have them in school. When I ask my liberal administration why these folks are on free and reduced lunch I am told I shouldn't judge because poverty is about maintaining a facade and about priorities and about trying to get ahead. Poverty is no longer about struggling to exist it is about trying to get a piece of the pie and exist in a society largely made up of successful people. Poverty is no longer about being able to afford rent and buy food, it is about owning homes and luxuries and if cheating on an application to get a free $2.50 a day meal is what it takes to get ahead, then we shouldn't judge people for doing it. In summary, the internalized right of entitlement that we have talked about. What a bunch of bull!
So yes, maybe we "should" help our neighbors. But on the other hand, our neighbors should help themselves by not living beyond their means and needs. No amount of philanthropy or compassion will overcome stupidity. Who was it that said, "You can't legislate out stupidity?" I think what you are seeing is people saying, "Enough is enough!" Don't ask me to feel sorry for you because you have tons of debt that you really didn't need in the first place. Don't expect me to bail you out because you just had to live in San Francisco and decided to buy a $2M 2 bedroom flat that was never worth more than about $100K. You should have known better. Maybe you did, but you just thought it would continue to inflate and everything would be OK. OK you made a decision now live with it. I still donate to charities such as hospitals who help those who truly were handed an eight ball in life and had no control over it. I refuse to fall into the trap of giving to every charity that puts a hand out and every individual who falls on hard times and goes on the evening news.
Life throws us all kinds of curve balls. It used to be that when this happened (like when I lost my last job) people sucked it up and did what it takes. Now they go on the local news and whine about how unfair it is because they can't make a payment on their new SUV. Whatever happened to rugged individualism and taking care of your own? Whatever happened to pride and humility? Whatever happened to failing and starting over and rising to new heights? Whatever happened to the right to the pursuit of happiness that has become the right to covet and have whatever thy wants? When did it become the government's job to bail out every Tom, Dick, and Harry that makes bad business decisions or gets caught up in an economical cycle? It all began with the New Deal and has grown ever since into what has become the Great American Entitlement Rush. Our leaders have taught us that "failure is not an option," not because we can overcome anything, but because being an American means we are entitled to success. It is no wonder the rest of the world has such great disdain for we spoiled Americans. Our neighbors around the world just cannot understand all of the whining we do. And frankly I agree with them.
To those impacted by the current economic situation, I understand your pain. You will get through it. I went through it many times in the last 30 years - remember the bust in the IT boom and outsourcing? If your new car gets repossessed, get a used one. If you can't afford your ARM, rent a while and live and learn. I am empathetic to your situations but I am not sympathetic. If you have a ton of debt - so sorry, your choices or your circumstances created it. Get another job and pay it off. So what if you have to work 7 days a week for a year to pay it off. You will feel better about yourself for doing it. If your industry is hurting - so sorry, you must balance the bad with the good you have had in the past. As for me, I am just fine. I don't make a ton of money but I don't spend much and don't have a drive to do so. More importantly, I don't expect anything from my government or from my neighbors and I will die before I put myself in a position to ask for a handout or just a hand, as the commercial goes. When fuel prices go up, I just curb my entertainment expenses and spend more time in the shop. Or I just spend more time with the family - talking not doing "things" that cost money. Turn the heat down and curl up in a chair with a good book and a blanket. So sorry if you have to get rid of cable TV or satellite TV for a year - IMO you're better of without it anyway. Take a walk around the neighborhood and get a little exercise. Drink water instead of beer and wine. Go to Barnes and Nobles and sit in a nice comfy chair and read a book - sneak in your own cup of coffee instead of buying a $7.00 Starbucks. Go to the public library. Go walk in the park. Go to church and feel good about being alive. Turn off that crappy news media rubbish - if nobody is told there is a recession does it really exist?
OK so for me, the economy is not bad at all. My job is secure, I am eating, I have no debt, I can put gas in my truck, my lights are on. I am working ever so slowing on my cash RV that one day (only God knows when) will fly. This is my measure of the economy, not how quickly I am getting ahead of the next guy. My investments are going up and down but mostly up and I don't need them to live. So life is good! We live in the still greatest country in the world. Don't worry, be happy. Work harder! Take care of yourself!
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