A big problem with snap judgements and over generalizations are the assumptions made by the ground observer that the pilot in question did not assess the risk, prepare for the manuever, or is unqualified to execute it.
"He who does not risk, cannot win!", John Paul jones.
I see it the other way. It is not a problem to discuss preparation, decision making and self discipline on the ground. Such discussion is an important way to help encourage a safety culture. It is a safety culture, more so than rules, that will keep people alive to enjoy their aviation pursuits. The real problem is people not realising the consequences of their actions, and that is a safety issue.
Another example: An inexperienced pilot sees an inspiring handling display at an airshow. He thinks to himself, 'I have the same aircraft, I think I will give that a try'. Without experience and training, he goes out and tries to do the same thing and exceeds either his ability or that of the aircraft and crashes hurting himself and possibly others. Some might say that it is his right, he should have the freedom to make those decisions and if he makes a poor choice, such is life. I argue that there should be a system/culture that says - sure you can do that, however, this is the training required, this is how you do it safely and this is how you do it responsibly. Such a system does not reduce personal freedom, it just allows us to learn from the mistakes of those that have gone before us.
As for not discussing differences in how different pilots fly, sorry, I can't agree there. I have been a professional aviator for over 29 years, and every time I fly I critique the guy I am flying with and myself. This does not have to be a negative thing, or even a verbal discussion, but I do ask myself 'how could I have done that better' or if the other guy was flying 'why did ho do it that way' etc. I see discussions such as we are having now as a way of improving the safety knowledge base of all involved in that discussion. My background is military transport and training, then airline flying. Most of my single engine time is jet or turboprop with an ejection seat. I would expect that there will be considerations for flying an RV (when I eventually build mine) that I will gain through discussions like this, that I had not thought of. Those discussions will, I hope, make me safer. I would also expect that there may be some professional training and human factors issues that I might be able to bring to the discussion that may assist someone else.
I agree that endeavours that involve some degree of risk are exciting and lead to a more interesting and fulfilled like. Sport aviation is such a pursuit and I agree you cannot legislate all of the risk out of it. However, I think there is a big difference between doing something that involves risk and being
reckless. With education we can enjoy the thrill while reducing the chances of something going wrong.