OK - the issue is not really the tight or loose fit of the pins in the holes in the aircraft and the wing spars. The spar pins and the bushings in the holes are machined to quite tight tolerances & if they get too loose - you replace the bushings. the issue is that because they are a tight fit, the alignment is critical to get the pins in. When the wings are inserted, but the pins are out, the near side of the spar rests on a roller and the far side is hooked under a catch-block that keeps the wing from falling down. The position of those 2 items for each wing determine how well the 4 bushings on each side line up. (one bushing in each wing spar and the 2 bushings on each side in the fuselage). The pins have a 45 degree chamfer which will only pull in a slight mis-alignment.
if the mis-alignment is too large for the pins to pull in, using the exhaust pipe expander will force the holes on one side into alignment - which may change the alignment on the other side enough to allow that pin to be inserted. (don't tighten the expander enough toactually expand the bushings). A helper wiggling one wing up and down may also do the same thing.
If the misalignment is in the "correct"direction, filing the catch block may also help, but make sure its going to help & not hurt. Feeling in the holes to determine the direction the wings have to go to does a lot to help you understand what needs to happen to get the holes lined up
I don't know of any way to adjust the roller up or down.
I also don't know what determines the left-right alignment but that usually is not a problem.
I only take wings off at annual, so I just feel the misalignment in the holes & use a sawhorse to lift one wing to get the first pin in place. If I trailered the aircraft, I would put some more work into getting them to align without external support.
Hope this helps.