David, my heart goes out to you. I lost my wife Janet to stomach cancer 8 months after diagnosis. She passed along 2.5 years before first flight of my 9A. I noticed you have yours and hers initials on the plane. I was able to use her date of birth and initials for my N#. N424JK (Janni Kaye)
Remember one thing. When you fly, you are never alone anymore. I am sure that like your wife, my wife Jan will always be my copilot.
Best of Luck...It gets real hard before it gets better.
Steve Koziol
267 614-8251 (Call if you every want to vent)