Agreed. Had I not received an answer I would have gone with what the plans called out, short or not, since it appears the aileron gap fairing is not for any significant structure purpose. But when Van's said I could go with the -3.5's I proceeded to use them, as I wrote above.
I'm wondering if there are differing interpretations of how it "should" be. All my references (AC 43.13 Figure 4-6, etc.) say that the exposed rivet shank, before set the rivet, should be 1.5 times the rivet diameter. I have other books that say the same. And in all of them, they show an illustration where the lower piece of aluminum being riveted (the piece further from the rivet's manufactured head) is
other than dimpled.
Like you, I dimpled both the wing skin and the fairing flange that attaches to it (and I used tank dimple dies on the latter, like you). Now, if I place my handy dandy rivet gauge over the shank, it sits flush with the skin, and
appears to show the proper rivet length. See "B" in the figure below. But my interpretation of "the book" is that the rivet gauge should be set up on the dimple, so that we're measuring the rivet shank length from the lowest part of the dimple, as shown in "A" below.
The rivet will expand to fill in the gap between the two dimples and the shop head will form up against the lower dimple in the above figure.
In my case, where I'm wondering whether to use a -3 or a -3.5, the difference is only 15 thousand's of an inch, which is awfully close to what the lower dimple protrusion is.
At any rate, the -3.5 worked well and it doesn't look like there will be any interference issue at all. The shop heads are perfect (.5D tall and 1.5D in diameter). But I agree with you that it likely doesn't matter in this particular area... and I wouldn't lose any sleep whatsoever had I used the -3.0's here.
Alright, I guess I've beat this horse to death... unless I should be using measurement "B" in the above situation/figure, in which case I would appreciate someone setting me straight!