1- You should have received the male 3-pronged connector with your unit. Contact the seller.
2- Power, ground, and nothing. I spoke to the Trutrak people about this when I was wiring mine. Connectors don't always come in all flavors of pin count. Sometimes as a designer you opt for the cheaper/stocked higher demand pin-counts (i.e. the 2 pin connector may end up costing twice as much as a 3-pin due to demand market demand).
Have fun wiring.