Not normal
What you are describing is definately not normal. I have same set up, 160hp and fixed pitch prop, which should be irrelivant anyway. I have flown several different RV's and never is there any buffet in pitch,and stick pressures are light and proportional to speed. It is common to get buffet in full aileron deflection due to "stalling" (feels like a series of bumps)because of its angle of attack, but your situation is far different. I would fully inspect everything in the tail, and verify the elevators are actually balanced. How long has this been occuring? I would have to assume this is either a new aircraft or newly aquired aircraft, and not something that has just started happening.