I'm tied to the NYC area due to my job, but I guess I will have to give some thought to moving out to the suburbs and commuting.
Well, this is what I was referring to when I mentioned
"evaluating many other aspects of your life. . ."
The truth is, if I lived and worked in NYC I know I would not be living the life I live now. There are certain aspects of living in a city that are great. Then there are those other aspects of living in the city that are not. This is where only you can answer the question of how you can do what you want where you are. If you truly want to live an aviation filled life I would tell you that you will not be able to do it while living in NYC.
To this end, your question about finding a place to build is only going to be the first stumbling block for the life you desire.
What do you do once the plane is built?
How do you afford to pay for the storage, access, fuel, taxes, fees and all of the other necessities that will be associated with owning and flying your airplane?
Is that possible while living where you do?
If you answer negatively to these questions, well then, you are going to have to reevaluate whether that job you have is the job you really want or need to have. You will need to ask yourself if the lifestyle outside of aviation and building/flying is the lifestyle you wish to lead. Is that lifestyle keeping you away from doing what you really want to do? Or, is it really the lifestyle you do want to lead? If not, and you truly want to live an aviation filled lifestyle, then I would say you are going to have to answer some very serious and hard questions of yourself to find out what you are willing to change in your life that will allow you to live that life.
Of course the above comments are predicated on your level of income. To the average Joe, like me and most everyone else on this forum, there is no way to afford to build and fly an airplane while living in NYC. On the other hand, if you happen to be some celebrity or something and money is no object then I really have no idea what your life is like. Therefore you can ignore all of this prattle about lifestyles and money and the like. Then I would say just go rent a hangar down at LaGuardia and get busy building.