Hi Scott,
As for the F-451, if I understand you correctly, you're talking about the forward end of F-451 where the little bulkhead (the one that's flat on 2 sides & then curved for 90 degrees) fits. I just looked, and mine isn't perfectly parallel. The F-451 SKIN is about 1/2 inch behind the plane of the firewall on the outboard edge, but almost an inch aft of the firewall on the inner side where it starts to form the wall of the exhaust tunnel. I installed the little bulkhead itself so that it IS pretty much parrallel w/ the plane of the firewall, both vertically as well as in the inboard-outborad direction. It is NOT installed so that the flanges of the little bulkhead are perfectly aligned with the front edge of the F-451 fairing (at least mine isn't).
Remember, that later on, when the fiber-glass instersection fairings for the gear legs are made, they will cover this area, and any slight mis-alignment of the front end of F-451 will not be visible.
Your 2nd question gave me a chuckle because I scratched my head for a quite while over that one myself!! There are AN bolts in the top of the longeron, and as you say, rivets on the side. There didn't seem to be enough room for adding any nut-plates in the FWD corner for screws!
In fact, you have to be pretty careful and drive the rivets first, then install the AN bolts & nuts. Otherwise the nuts will block access for the bucking bar. I suppose if I were smart enough & planned ahead better, I could've planned it so that the rivets which hold the nut-plates also hold the longeron to the outer leg of the upper firewall weldment, but the plans didn't give me any hints there, or I missed it.
My solution was to rivet a 3/4 x 3/4 x 0.063 angle to the top of the longeron between the firewall & instrument panel stations, with one leg of the angle pointing UP. This angle is flush w/ the outside of the main longeron, so it essentially doubles the width of the flange & gives plenty of room for nutplates without having to worry about the small size of the weldment flanges in the FWD corner. It also means that the bottom edge of the upper FWD skin will butt to the top edge of the FWD side-skin rather than over-lapping it. I'm hoping this will pay off later when fitting the cowl cheek extensions. I've seen other RV-4's at fly-ins where the FWD upper corner of the fiberglass cheek extension had to be trimmed-down a bit in order for it to clear the overlap area and sit flat against side of the fuselage. If it wasn't trimmed, then a small part of the cheek extension would overlap the joint where the top skin overlaps the side skin near the firewall, and there would be a small gap there under the fiberglass flange of the cheek extension.
Anyway, I hope that helps a bit.
All the Best on your project!!