Firewall Forward: Aluminum vs Steel
The thing about airplanes is that "stronger" is not "better" once you have met your design requirement... It's just heavier (which is bad for a flying machine). Going steel everywhere firewall forward is a safe (but lazy) approach, and results in a heavier, poorer flying airplane.
Looking at the AN standards for fluid adapters (eg. AN815 Union - Flared Tube) the following codes are listed for material options:
No code letter in part number for steel
Add D after dash number for aluminum alloy (except 7075-T73)
Add J after dash number for corrosion resistant steel, type 304
Add K after dash number for corrosion resistant steel, type 316
Add S after dash number for corrosion resistant steel, type 347
Add T after dash number for titanium
Add W after dash number for 7075-T73 aluminum
So there are quite a number of different material alloys available depending on, as you say, your design requirement. The trouble is, the AN standards do not give any guidance on what the design (or installation) requirements for each material are.
For my airplane, the design requirements for firewall forward fluid systems include fire resistance and fatigue/vibration resistance. Several posts assume you already have a fire and that aluminum adapters in the flame zone won't melt and make a bigger fire. My failure mode analysis suggests that if a fitting cracks at the threads (a point of high stress concentration) and sprays the fluid it is supposed to contain, such as fuel or oil, on hot engine parts then this is a fire initiation. In considering the fire resistance and fatigue resistance of the actual fitting, I believe the steel fittings are superior to the aluminum fittings. I plan to use steel fittings firewall forward for my fuel and oil lines.
I do agree with you that once you have met the design requirements, stronger is just heavier, which is not desireable on an airplane. So if you can refer me to or publish some design requirements that define the proper material to be used for various fluids in both the airframe and firewall forward, I would appreciate the education.