There's lots of infomation on using West epoxy here:
http://www.westsystem.com/. Its worth the read to understand what is happening with this stuff.
Fin - so far as wet sanding goes, the relevant bit is quoted below -the waxy byproduct, technically called amine blush, is seen in cooler, humid conditions. The waxy problem becomes really prominent if the reaction proceeds at too cool a temperature. The main reason I prefer wet sanding is that the paper won't clog. The other problem I have found is that the friction from vigorous sanding can be enough to soften the epoxy and degrade the surface. Yes I do sand dry with 80 but only gently, and not if I can avoid it because I prefer to use wet lay-ups (ie previous layer is not fully cured) where the bond is chemical.
"Surface preparation.
Cured epoxy - Amine blush can appear as a wax-like film on cured epoxy surfaces. It is a by-product of the curing process and may be more noticeable in cool, moist conditions. Amine blush can clog sandpaper and inhibit subsequent bonding, but it can easily be removed. It's a good idea to assume it has formed on any cured epoxy surface.
To remove the blush, wash the surface with clean water (not solvent) and an abrasive pad, such as Scotch-brite(TM) 7447 General Purpose Hand Pads. Dry the surface with paper towels to remove the dissolved blush before it dries on the surface. Sand any remaining glossy areas with 80-grit sandpaper. Wet-sanding will also remove the amine blush. If a release fabric is applied over the surface of fresh epoxy, amine blush will be removed when the release fabric is peeled from the cured epoxy and no additional sanding is required."
Bob - different fillers - microballoons, flox, colloidal silica, carbon, whatever, all fulfill different functions depending on what you are trying to achieve - the West System site gives guidance on whats appropriate, albeit in boat building terms. For example, if I was filling around rivet heads I'd use microballoons or microlight - its easy to sand and will take paint well. If you inadvertently use filleting blend, its a pain in the neck to sand off. Also most people don't add enough filler and have a mixture that is too runny - again the West site gives really useful advice.
Just to provide an example, when I built the windshield fillet for the -8, as recommended in the Vans instructions I first made a small fillet using filleting blend (nice strong fillet) to hold the base of the screen and make sure that the glass tape couldn't migrate through a small gap. Then I used the requisite pieces of tape, starting 1/2" wide and working up in 1/4" increments with unfilled resin, waiting till the previous layer was tacky before adding the next one. Then I added a layer of a stiff microballoon mixture and let that go off completely, sanded it gently to the final shape and added odd bits of microballoon mix to fill the low spots. You could of course finish the final layer with glass with some peel-ply over it and then sand that smooth but I prefer to finish with microballoons and shape that.
I hope that's helpful. I hasten to add that I'm a novice aircraft builder. My experience of polyester, vinyl ester and epoxy resins has been for boat-building.
Chris