Coming from helicopters, landing was uncomfortable for me when I did my SEL add-on. Whenever I had the proper angle/sight picture, I felt like I was diving toward the runway vs. a slightly nose-up attitude in a helo - also unlearning the muscle memory of wanting to bleed off airspeed on final; doesn't work well in an airplane
Add cross-winds to the landing during my training, and I was very uncomfortable for a while. As a previous poster mentioned, practice really is the key. Practice will increase the confidence and in turn improve the landings and continue to increase your confidence. I find it analogous to learning to hover (only not as difficult). Initially you're thinking, WTH?! Eventually, you're watching your hands and feet make movements that you really aren't commanding. You are almost instantaneously responding to variations in aircraft movement, preventing that movement inertia from growing and getting out of hand. Very similar to handing the controls to a non-pilot and watching them chase altitude up and down constantly. They are not used to anticipating the aircraft movement and correcting for it; they can only react.
I would get up with an experienced friend, instructor, etc, and just practice - in a fun, non-threatening fashion. Also, IMO, a good technique is to extend downwind a little bit (if not interfering with traffic flow) and give yourself plenty of time to get stabilized and be able to recognize the wind's effect on your plane and corrections necessary to maintain centerline - understanding that mechanical turbulence may change this requirement significantly from initial final leg altitude to TCH.
While I agree with the above post, I believe most of the time it is not such a matter of technique, but of quick, responsive control input to prevent the plane from from getting out of shape while, at the same time, not over controlling. The slow, flowing control inputs that make a CC flight smooth and pleasant to a passanger do not work well during gusty landings. Check out some cockpit video of gusty approaches and look at the amount/rate of control inputs.
I find my RV-7A a poor cross-wind trainer because it handles cross-winds so well. That being said, I'll go back to what a previous poster said - fly the airplane; we make the aircraft control inputs. The RVs responsiveness allows the pilot to handle cross-winds very well.