All the A&P's in my area use "Sealube":
http://www.aircraftspruce.com/catalo...es/sealube.php
Buy one can and it will last you for a lifetime. No offense to Dan on the teflon, but this is better. Teflon is great, but as Dan says you have to be careful with it. I only use teflon on instruments, etc.
The other item that you mentioned (EZ Turn Fuel Lube) is great stuff, but all the A&P's reserve that for gasket paste. It is AWESOME gasket paste. you can pull off the gaskets 5 years later and they are like new and the paste prevents leaks. I use it on almost all paper gaskets.
But Sealube is better for fittings than EZ Turn. I have NEVER had the tapered NPT fitting leak with this sealant.
If it is in fact your 37 degree flares that are causing the problem then the special seals that Steve mentioned are the way to go.
PS: I was a diehard Permatex user for years until I found this stuff. Permatex is great stuff, but you have to have the fittings absolutly clean with no oil residue to get the Permatex to work. Hard to do on an in service cooler. That may be part of your problem. Also Permatex is only midly less annoying to get on you than Proseal B-2. Requires strong language and chemicals to remove. Sealube comes right off with a towel.