As I read your post I could absolutely see that happening to me and it probably would have crushed my motivation....
Being as I'm active duty USMC, my RV-10 has more miles on the ground than most will probably ever see. I started it in Yuma AZ, and it has been to Norfolk VA, Quantico VA, Jacksonville NC, is currently in Monterey CA, and will be moving to Albany GA sometime next year.
I had it almost fall off the homemade wooden ramps getting it into the back of a Penske truck (I bought a flatbed trailer after that move so I'd never again have to try to get it 5 feet up in the air). I had my wooden wing stands collapse in the back of another Penske while turning a corner before I had it loaded with anything but the wings. Big loud crash, but the only damage was to crinkle the inboard edge of one flap. I've had my helpers disappear several times just as I started sliding it off the trailer, so the bottom tip of my tailcone has some rash from the concrete. I've learned to wrap it in blankets before loading/unloading now...
I'll second the poster who said don't go cheap on transport or anything else that if it fails you're going to do damage to the project. It's a bummer when anything you put that much work into gets damaged, but I'm glad it wasn't as bad as it could have been. Good luck on getting it fixed and getting back on track.