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Old 01-25-2011, 09:10 PM
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Default Take your time and gently lead her

There are lots of great ideas in this thread. I can tell you what I did.

I took Jamie to some fly-ins to see all the airplanes. Make it a fun date! Take her out to dinner or do something afterwards that SHE wants to do. I arranged for a friend to take her up on a ride. She loved it. I invited her to some monthly meetings. It made it all real to her. I'll invite her to sit on my lap with me and we'll read a travel adventure online that someone posted with lots of pictures, so we can dream of all the great places we'll fly to someday. Doug Reeves is spot on with this one! Or watch a short video together. I'm sharing my excitement with her, and showing her that it's all for her, too. After all, I don't want to fly off somewhere alone. I ask her opinions on things like upholstery patterns and colors, what kind of paint job looks good, and so on. It gets her involved and she knows her opinions matter to me. After a very long drive or trip in the car, casually mention "we could have flown an RV there in an hour" or whatever. Remember, things that are obvious to you don't even cross her mind.

She doesn't usually come to chapter meetings with me because frankly, there aren't very many girls there and she feels out of place. "It's a guy thing." So when she does come, I go out of my way to connect her to one of the few ladies who may be there. These have been wonderful experiences for her, to hear firsthand from one of the ladies how much she enjoys the airplane, the places they have gone, etc. And she makes a new friend.

If you have a spouse who is shaking her head or frowning on the whole idea, you're not going to convince her overnight. This is a project in itself. Don't look at it as having to wear her down until she finally gives up. That's a losing proposition. Take your time and know when to lay off for a while.

As far as the money issues are concerned, this can be big. Jamie overheard many conversations I had with others about the financial advantages of the project; how this isn't like spending money on any ordinary hobby. It's an investment that will hold its value, along with my sweat equity. That was far better than preaching it to her face.

Ask some other ladies how they became supportive, and listen carefully. You'll learn something.

Finally, you may have to resign yourself to compromise when it comes to which model you're going to build. I know my wife won't take a back seat. If she's going to fly with me, it's a side-by-side for sure. But as Ken Scott says, the RV-7 flies the same as the RV-8. It's the same tail, same wings, same engine and prop options. The only difference is the view out the window. Is that such a bad compromise?
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Old 01-25-2011, 09:23 PM
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Buy her everything (that you can afford) that her heart desires for about thirty years, then make the suggestion! (Doesn't mean you can slow down the pace; still got to balance shop time and spouse time!!)
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Old 01-25-2011, 09:24 PM
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After a very long drive or trip in the car, casually mention "we could have flown an RV there in an hour" or whatever.
I do that ALLL the time! Except it's usually DURING the drive when there's another 3 1/2 hours or so to go- "We'd be there by now IF....."
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Old 01-26-2011, 08:17 AM
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I do that ALLL the time! Except it's usually DURING the drive when there's another 3 1/2 hours or so to go- "We'd be there by now IF....."
Funny I do that on every car trip... 'and right now we would be entering the pattern if we were in the RV'
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Old 01-26-2011, 08:59 AM
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Some people just do not like to travel, or leave home. The garden, or art, or bridge club, is their interest.
Sometimes with some people,,,,,, it may be that Gordan Baxter was right.
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Old 01-26-2011, 09:29 AM
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I asked my wife if she'd like to get away for a "romantic weekend" to Casselton, ND. We spent time with Bob Miller at his hangar who'd built RV-8 Dakota Boy and is now building an 8A. Aftwards we drove north to meet with Lance and his family while they were finishing up his 8 with all the tall guy mods. She was very impressed with how nice they were and willing to help and motivate. One the drive home she said she thinks it's something we "need" to do.
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Old 01-26-2011, 09:42 AM
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Since he's already done it out of order (it should be airplane THEN wife), tell him to show his wife the thread on women who love to fly.
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Old 01-26-2011, 11:45 AM
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You could let your wife buy a horse (assuming she likes horses) and that will just about equal the cost of an RV in the long run?
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Old 01-26-2011, 01:39 PM
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You could let your wife buy a horse (assuming she likes horses) and that will just about equal the cost of an RV in the long run?
HA! You have no idea how close you nailed this one in regards to my household. The good news is we got to use the RV a few times to go visit the horse this summer at the KSU Equine Hospital!! (I'm pretty sure we financed a new addition on this fine facility). Made the RV look pretty good.
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Old 01-26-2011, 06:29 PM
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You might try taking your wife to a riveting class (before even deciding to build a plane). My wife totally dug it so we started building.
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